I’m Coming Out

Tuesday 20 January 2015 - Filed under Soul

25 years ago I could not have imagined how legal and open my relationship would be able to be in the future. But I also could not imagine after I first came out, how many more times I would have to come out over my life time. Every new job, new acquaintance and even old friends and distant relatives.
C hadn’t been to Malta in 12 years and hadn’t really communicated much with her relatives in that time. She did notify a few of them of our marriage and received a polite congrats in reply, however, we were unsure how we would be received by her family.
As we prepared for our visit and made arrangements with her family we received one email that filled our hearts with joy. It was from a dear relative C hadn’t heard from in some time, due mostly to circumstance, and in it she openly lauded our nuptials and eagerly extended a welcome to me to their family.
As we pack our bags and set the alarm for our early morning flight, we are even more excited about our upcoming adventure.

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Happy Anniversary

Monday 19 January 2015 - Filed under Random Mental Dishes

One year ago today C and Tuks and I left Montana to come and live in England.
Absolutely no regrets!

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Get Real!

Sunday 18 January 2015 - Filed under Blah

Ok, so updating once a week throughout 2015 may be an unrealistic goal for me, but I will try to be a more consistent updater.

C and I went to that other city for that job interview and honestly didn’t like either as much as we had hoped. The trip was fun, we got to hang out with some friends and explore new places, but it didn’t click. All three of us (yes Tuks went too) were very relieved to be home in our little flat by the sea.

On Wednesday we will set out for a week in Malta. I will definitely be posting pics to my Flickr and may even manage an update. Even though I find the hugely negative stereotype of the English winter to be misleading (it’s quite mild and doesn’t rain that much), it will be nice to get out of it for a bit.

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Feels Good

Thursday 1 January 2015 - Filed under Random Mental Dishes

Ah. No posts today!!  What a relief.

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Saying Goodbye to 2014

Wednesday 31 December 2014 - Filed under Random Mental Dishes

2014 was a mixed bag personally. Mostly good. Lots of new. A few disappointments and hopefully a lot of setting up for a better 2015.

Walking on the beach with friends, throwing old ideas and situations out with stones in the waves was a lovely way to end the year. C and I will have a quiet night at home and wake up in good spirits to start the new year.

Happy new year to all my dear and distant friends.

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Change We Can Believe In

Tuesday 30 December 2014 - Filed under Hero

Its hard to consider oneself within the arc of time where each of us resides. Its easy to feel trapped in a system that is inescapable. For me its hard to imagine that we make up all these systems and that even so this is the best we can do to support, encourage and develop ourselves and one another. This has been a horrible year filled with injustice, hatred and prejudice. I want to still believe we can do better. Ursula Le Guin reminds me to have courage.

“We live in capitalism. Its power seems inescapable. So did the divine right of kings. Any human power can be resisted and changed by human beings.”

— Ursula Le Guin, accepting the Medal for Distinguished Contribution to American Letters, 2014 National Book Awards.

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In Between Times

Monday 29 December 2014 - Filed under Holidailies

C and I have been enjoying the quieter times around the neighbourhood lately. I have always liked the lull between Xmas and new year’s. It feels like a time to reflect, clean out, organise and get prepared for the next things to come. I have high hopes for 2015 yet, it would still be good if it were only more of the same.

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Into The Great Wide Open

Sunday 28 December 2014 - Filed under Creations

I miss our house in Dallas. I probably always will.

It was just sort of the perfect place for C and I to “oasis” together. We were lucky to find it and it fit us well.

So now, during the holidays while we are both home and taking things slowly, I miss the trees, the fireplace, the patio, the spaciousness and the quiet.

But that’s the sacrifice: you leave a home, an oasis – for adventure, the unknown, something you haven’t seen or done yet. I’m sure it’s why mankind originally took to the sea.

Sometimes I stand on the angry English shore and wonder what type of individual would leave all the world behind to make their way in that unknown, turbulent water, while the beach is so safe, the land so nurturing.

Then, only a day later, I witness that same wily water, now like glass, beckoning, calling, with the song of sirens, and I am drawn out of my comfort, out of my quiet and I wonder what else lies waiting for me somewhere yet unknown.

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24 Miles In

Saturday 27 December 2014 - Filed under Blah

I’ve never run a marathon, and I must say I don’t expect I ever will. But I do understand the desire to push oneself towards edges and if possible, past perceived limits. I have done a few endurance rides on my bike and hope to get back into them soon.

And holidalies is like that but on a small scale. At first I was really genuinely enjoying sharing a bit of my life with folks virtually. Right now I’m just filling space because I intend to go the distance. And I don’t know if you’ve ever witnessed those weekend warriors who are just barely able to pull out the last little bit of an endurance test? It’s not pretty.

That’s where it feels like I am right now. However, these past 27 days have reminded me that this space can be a fun spot to work out ideas, share events and experiences and it’s best kept as a want to and not a need to.

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For Life

Friday 26 December 2014 - Filed under Food


Good morning sunshine

I’ve never been big on coffee but I do like a nice tea. Lately I’m drinking black tea (Yorkshire loose leaf ) but in the past I drank mostly loose leaf oolong and genmaicha.  Over the years I’ve tried a variety of tea gadgets. Lots were bunk but I have found a few keepers. My all time favourite tea mug is the For Life Asian style.  It’s a thick ceramic so the tea stays warm. The leaf well is deep and spacious so the leaves can fully open. And the well fits perfectly on the upside down lid to keep your counter clean and dry. It doesn’t have a handle, so I know by touch when my tea is cool enough not to scald my tongue, but it has rubber grippies that stay cooler than the ceramic so you can pick it up while it’s still quite hot.  It comes in different colors, but I have the yellow one, as it brightens up my mornings.

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